If you know me at all, you know I LOVE the mind. I love learning how it works, why it works the way it does, and where it all happens. I am also a firm believer in changing your thoughts to navigate the world.
Take me, for example. I just moved to a new city and I don’t know anyone here. I can think the wrong thoughts, “poor me. I won’t make friends. I don’t know how to get anywhere. I barley know my address. Who’s going to be my friend…” If you notice, stress and anxiety cling tight to some of those thoughts. I will be the first to admit, I find myself even as I write this being prone to negative “poor me” thinking. In this generation, we’ve been brought up to think it, in fact, IS all about us. “Poor me” thinking is an anthem of this generation I constantly fight in my own self. Not only this, but thoughts about our financial situations, career choices, and even our opinions of other people! I am just using my example to give you a lens to see my theory. Disclaimer: Don’t even get me started on how social media feeds stress and anxiety through selfish or wrong thinking. Again, I am prone to this thinking and fall short 90% of the day, like most people. My point is this: if we choose to think wrong thoughts- we will bare wrong feelings about ourselves, about other’s and even our reality. Ya’ll, we will set expectations on ourselves that we cannot achieve. We will set ourselves up for a loss when we adhere to negative thinking of any kind.
Flip side. Take my situation again… Here in this new city, it may be TRUE that I don’t know anyone. It may be TRUE that I will have to work to find my routine. And TRUE, it may be tough at times. All of this is okay, and all organic thoughts. HOWEVER, how I CHOOSE to perceive the situation is all on me. Just like how you choose to perceive your challenging situation is all on you. Instead of thinking negative thoughts and tormenting myself, I will choose to think light, positive and ENCOURAGING thoughts (cuz you have to be your own cheerleader, or who’s team are you on??). I will instead wake up and say, “ I will have the opportunity to do something good today. In this new city, I have a whole new start. I will get to laugh at myself when I make silly mistakes trying to figure things out. It’ll be a great adventure.” These thoughts are conducive to a mind who wants good for themselves. These are the thoughts of someone who has their mind on the same team as them.
My challenge to you is this: THINK about what you’re thinking about. Are you on your own team? You have the choice to do something today that nobody else will have, a choice to make a difference in yourself in your own, unique circumstance. Think about being your best friend. You deserve it!
One of my favorite preacher’s, Joyce Meyer always says this and it’s something I’ve adopted myself. In the mirror before the day starts, look yourself in the eyes and say, “something good is going to happen THROUGH me and TO me today”.
Be good to yourself today!