New beginnings are scary for everyone. And as my favorite character on my favorite show says,
“Change. We don’t like it. We fear it. But we can’t stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. It hurts to grow. Anyone who says it doesn’t is lying. But here’s the truth. Sometimes the more things change, the more they stay the same. And sometimes change is good. Sometimes change is everything.”
I do learn most of my life lessons from Meredith Grey on Grey’s anatomy, but I think this is the most valuable teaching thus far. Saying goodbye is single handedly the hardest thing for me for do. I want my people close, where I can love on them at a moment’s notice. Graduating is hard, and moving away from home is hard, leaving your friends behind is hard…but it is the best thing you can do for yourself.
When you say goodbye to what you’ve always known a few things happen. First, you learn to be yourself. One hundred percent, uncandidly yourself. When you relocate to a place where you don’t know a soul, all of the past molds you felt you needed to fit melt away. You become confident in who you are, what you wear, the way you speak and what you believe in.
Second, you learn how to be independent. Not that, “I live on my own and can pay my own bills and do my own laundry,” kind of independent. But the kind where you learn to fight for yourself and ask for what you need. You become a problem solver. You fight to be a professional business woman living in world that can seem everything but conducive to that. You learn how to carry yourself in a way that makes it very clear that you are here to make the world a better place, and you won’t take no for an answer.
And you learn that it is okay to say goodbye. You aren’t going to maintain every friendship you’ve ever created. BUT THAT’S OKAY. Sometimes it’s better to be a memory. Hang around just long enough to make a difference, and then move on so you can continue to make those differences to everyone you encounter. If we get too comfortable, how will we keep making positive changes on the world? Being an LC has taught me how much of an impact you can make in a short amount of time. So don’t be afraid to say goodbye. Embrace goodbyes and know that leaving little pieces of yourself everywhere you go can be the best thing you ever do for yourself…and everyone you meet.
Keep It Real,