Ah, yes. It’s now February, and you’re probably wondering what another blog post about resolutions is doing on your feed. You’re most likely feeling a little guilty because you, along with most individuals, lose sight of their resolutions relatively easily. In fact, Forbes found that only 8 percent of people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions. So, what to do about it? Below, a few tips and tricks I’ve picked up, including a few you may already have in your back pocket.
For those who prefer the more traditional route, here is some advice on how to set realistic resolutions you can actually stick to. In a recent New York Times Smarter Living article, a great resource for personal growth, the author suggested a tool Sigma Kappa already utilizes: SMART goals. By setting goals which are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely, the chances of sticking to that resolution are significantly better. Additionally, not all resolutions have to be a grand overhaul of your life; starting small, such as aiming to go to bed by 11PM, or making an effort to have a salad per day can be great ways to improve yourself and your livelihood in both small and meaningful ways.
It’s also okay to not set “resolutions” at all. There is such understated value in constantly changing, as well as understanding that you can set new goals for yourself whenever you want, not just on January 1st! One of my favorite bloggers once set a new goal each month, with the idea being that change does not all happen in January, but over time. Another blogger, and fellow Sigma Kappa sister, sets a word of intention for the new year, as a way to frame and provide direction for the year, rather than impose strict guidelines which can often fall by the wayside.
My biggest takeaway from setting, losing track of, and starting new goals year after year has been this: it is often more important to give myself grace and recognize that I am work in progress than it is to reach the finish line of a goal. Goal setting can be useful but so, too, is understanding that not accomplishing a goal or living up to a resolution can teach you just as much about yourself. This also shows you what’s important to you, and the different ways in which you can grow from these experiences. To know myself better through the process of failure, and to make a concerted effort to work on one specific area of my life allows me to find moments of peace when things do not go as planned. This year, my word to live by is Patience. Whether I flex this muscle in daily interactions, more long-term relationships, or with myself when I struggle to complete a task, I know that this word will guide me in the year to come in more ways than I can count. So here’s to all the personal growth this year has to offer!
Yours in Exploration,