I really can’t believe I have less than a month left as a leadership consultant. Coming into this role, I never could have imagined that it would change me to extent that it has. The past two years have been filled with highs, lows, twists and turns but I can truly say I have gained so much from this experience. I’ve been blessed to see and take part in the change and growth that the amazing members and chapters I’ve worked with have gone through. All while building on the greatness that is Sigma Kappa and falling more in love with this incredible organization. I can’t help but be appreciative of all the memories, friendships and life lessons that I now carry with me because they can never be replaced.
It seemed only appropriate to leave you all with a few important lessons I’ve learned over the past two years for my last and final blog post.
The power of you. You are different. You are unique. You are special and that is your superpower. Nobody else is or can be you, so be proud of that. Learn about your strengths, your flaws as well as your quirks and own every single one of them. You bring something to the table that no one else can and when you can see the value in that, you will break barriers. It’s like superhuman strength.
We don’t know everything, and that’s okay. No one has it all figured out or even has all the answers. There is no shame in being honest and saying “I don’t know”. We aren’t all knowing and those simple words can help you avoid a world-wind of other problems you’d encounter if you just made something up. Life is about learning, figuring things out as you go. You can’t be afraid to admit when you’re lost or confused or to ask for help.
A before C =acceptance before change. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do better, be better or grow but in order to be successful in those things, you must accept where you are at. Change takes time so embrace your own timeline and relieve yourself of some pressure. Don’t focus on all the things you aren’t because you will lose sight of what you are. Accept the circumstances, situations and even your weaknesses. It’s important to identify the things you can and cannot change but excuses and especially denial is detrimental to growth so leave those things at the door.
No win is too small to celebrate. Goals take steps. The small, significant, stepping stones that get us to the bigger picture. It’s important for us to realize how much each one of them mean. Why? Because sometimes the journey is more important than the destination. Small wins have power. They keep us motivated, feeling accomplished and remind us that we are still on our way. Was today better than yesterday? Celebrate it. Did you have a first today? Celebrate it. Was there one thing you accomplished today? Celebrate it. Celebrate the things you are achieving and most importantly who you are becoming.
Your feelings aren’t on trial. Too many times we judge ourselves for feeling sad about something, upset or the plethora of other emotions we can go through in the span of a day. We want to analyze them, rationalize. When we are too critical of our feelings it causes us to want to cover it up, stuff those feelings away or try to eliminate them rather than just taking the moment to feel them. We have to allow ourselves the time to just be, feel and connect. If we find a way to be vulnerable we allow ourselves to be open, relatable and happy.
Life isn’t linear so strap in. We can’t know what will happen tomorrow, five minutes from now or five years. What we can do is be ready to tackle whatever comes our way with grace, confidence and strength. Will we have lows? Of course. And will we have highs? Absolutely. But remember no matter where you are on the crazy roller coaster of life, it keeps moving so you will too!
That’s my final boarding call. Time to jet,