It’s not you, it’s me.

Cora Johnson - Kappa Phi Chapter, Florida Atlantic University
Cora Johnson – Kappa Phi Chapter, Florida Atlantic University

Thanks to my roomie who saves me from all things technical, I have the new Google Chrome web browser (I think that’s what the computer geniuses call that page), and a different quote appears every day. Today’s quote was by Carlos Castaneda, “We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The effort is the same.” This quote caught my eye and got my mind thinking about a potential blog, the importance of loving yourself.


Young women are put to the ultimate test of strength through society’s ideals and beliefs of what the ‘perfect’ woman should look and act like. The word ‘perfect’ is far from my vocabulary…unless we are discussing my cats…but I have been failing this test for many years in my eyes. It wasn’t until the past few months and maybe year that I fully realized that the word perfect isn’t realistic but the word beautiful is.


Working with collegiate women on a daily basis I’ve witnessed the pressure to uphold the unrealistic standards set by society throughout their daily activities. I’ve also witnessed the beauty within each individual woman that sometimes goes unnoticed even to themselves.

[Beauty: the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind]

So often, we (all women and men) put so much pressure on physical appearance and hide or desensitize the importance of our qualities as individuals that set us apart and make us who we are. All women deserve to understand that they are unique and different and that is what makes them beautiful. So many times we (I’m included) beat ourselves up because our hair isn’t perfectly curled, our bone structure is too noticeable, our thighs are too wide, or the most common “why can’t I look like her.” While these same exact women are saving lives as nurses, being incredible teachers and role models for children, changing the business stigma, raising millions of dollars; essentially changing the world.

Fact: We are all different and probably all a little weird.

Fact: We are all beautiful because of that.

If I have learned anything this past year it is that you need to love yourself before you can love anybody else, or anything else for that matter. It’s not what you look like or what you could look like, it’s what you are doing and the lives you are impacting.

It’s time for all women to commit to loving themselves and their inner beauty, and to say, “sorry society, it’s not me, it’s you.” We are all beautiful and the world deserves to see your sparkle.




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