Three weeks ago I moved to a new city where I didn’t know a soul. I was terrified! I thought I was going to be so lonely until we got our new colony members. To my pleasant surprise, it actually is easy to make friends anywhere you go! I have thoroughly enjoyed getting to know so many new people here in Memphis and being here alone has forced myself to get out of my comfort zone and reach out to people I normally might not have.
If you want to make sure you will make friends ANYWHERE you go, just remember to be a S.I.G.M.A. Kappa and you’ll never be alone!
S- SMILE! If you make awkward eye contact with someone, don’t just look away. Smile at them and introduce yourself! You know how sometimes you’re just having a bad day and you walk past someone who is genuinely happy with life and it just makes you happy? Be that contagious happiness in the stranger’s lives around you.
I- INITIATE THE CONVERSATION! You can’t just sit around waiting for friends to come to you. It’s just like a scratch off lottery ticket…. you have to buy one before you have the chance to win! If you’re standing in a long line at Starbucks, talk to the person in front of you. If you’re waiting to get on a bus, turn to the person next to you. Put down your phone and pay attention to the people right in front of you! I have met at least seven FANTASTIC people that have enhanced my experience here at Memphis just by talking to the person in the Starbucks line with me.
G-GIVE BACK! If there is one thing I have noticed since being in Memphis, it is that people are constantly doing things for you throughout the day that you may not even realize. Give back that positivity! Hold the door open for someone with their hands full. If someone drops a bunch of papers then stop and help them pick it up. I made friends with someone the other day that offered me a tide-to-go pen when I spilled coffee on my white jeans and then started bonding over how clumsy we both were! Don’t be so wrapped up in your schedule- being fashionably late to an event because you were helping someone is DEFINITELY a thing.
M-MAKE TIME FOR THESE PEOPLE! Friendships don’t grow by just liking each other’s posts on Facebook. If you realize you’re about to grab lunch by yourself, send someone a quick text and see if they can meet you! Do you remember that someone you met had a hard test that day? Check up on them and see how it went! Take time to notice important events in other people’s lives and make sure they know that you were thinking about them.
A- APPEARANCE! Nobody wants to talk to someone with their headphones in, hood up, slouched over in the corner. Make yourself open and approachable to people! Sit up in your chair, if you have to use headphones-only put in one earbud, angle your chair outwards to the room instead of sitting with your back to the room. Body language is a huge part of communication and people don’t want to walk up and say “Hi!” to someone that looks like they are Oscar the Grouch. I have made four of my closest friends in the fraternity/sorority community at Memphis by just sitting at a table with more than one chair at it and looking friendly! I am not kidding… people actually will just invite themselves to sit down and start a conversation if you look like someone who is friendly. Thank goodness too because I was lost the other day on campus and one of the random friends I made at a coffee table came to my rescue!
These are just a few helpful hints to give you a head start on making all those great friends I know you can make! Be confident, be bold and be a S.I.G.M.A. Kappa and you’ll attract fantastic friends anywhere you go 🙂