An Ode to The Ones Who Convinced Me

Consultant life has most recently brought me to beautiful Dayton, Ohio where I’ve spent my days approaching strangers and convincing them to consider Sigma Kappa’s new chapter process. Every time I come into contact with one of them, whether they already know about the new chapter or not, I am reminded of just how much convincing the new chapter recruitment process really takes.

Four and a half years ago, I was one of those women who had to be convinced. I started out as someone who hated the whole idea of sorority life but I’ve become someone who spends her whole life serving Sigma Kappa. So how in the world did that happen? I feel like I’ve told this story about a thousand and a half times this week alone in an attempt to be relatable. Here it is:

  1. I didn’t want to be in a sorority. I thought I knew what it was all about and I was not all about buying my friends.
  2. The high school/college bf was in a fraternity. I was neutral about that.
  3. Sigma Kappa was establishing a new chapter on campus. I was neutral about that, too.
  4. My roommate who withdrew from recruitment made me to go an info session with her.
  5. I fell in love.

All of that was surrounded by a lot of convincing, sometimes by people who were very aware of what they were doing and sometimes by others who had no idea they were influencing me. So during a whole week full of convincing, I’m constantly reminded about those who convinced me and those who actually got me here, whether they realize it or not. This is a thanks to them –


To the fraternity men and sorority women I happened to barely know who were nice and normal and cared about their chapter for the right reasons, thank you for being the very first ones who showed me that this world is not shallow. You convinced me that being in a chapter really is about the values you share with the organization.

To the leadership consultants who spoke to an unwilling freshman about their experiences, thank you for showing me that sorority women are not all the same. You convinced me that I could be in a sorority and still be myself, a girl who hates pop music and has never had a manicure and despises “The Bachelor” and feels lost among the millennials.

To the national volunteer who sold me during my personal visit, thank you for making me feel special and helping me see myself in this organization. You convinced me that this whole thing was a good idea and you were so right.

To the first members of Epsilon Mu who were brave enough to make a lifelong commitment to our crazy chapter and to a phenomenal organization, thank you for taking a risk with me and giving me a place that I could be my whole self. You convinced me that the best opportunities are often the most unexpected ones.

To my leadership consultants who put their faith in me and guided me daily, thank you for giving me confidence in myself and influencing me to constantly become better. You convinced me that I am capable of being the kind of woman I always wanted to be.


It took a lot of convincing to get me here, but I couldn’t be happier about where I am. Just remember that you never know who you might be convincing when you are recruiting a new member.

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